A Missouri mom’s viral post is tearing down some ridiculous misconceptions about C-section births.
On Aug. 19, Raye Lee, who gave birth to her son Roxas via C-section just five days earlier, posted photos of her post-surgery scar on Facebook. In the caption, she shared a powerful message about the way people tends to view this method of childbirth.
Lee begins the post with a comment that represents some common reactions to her birth experience: “Oh. A c-section? So you didn’t actually give birth. It must have been nice to take the easy way out like that.”
The new mom then shared her perfectly sarcastic response to those kinds of comments.
“Ah, yes. My emergency c-section was absolutely a matter of convenience,” she wrote. “It was really convenient to be in labor for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART.”
“Being told at the beginning that I was displaying great progress and wouldn’t need a cesarean section… and then being told that I was being prepped for major abdominal surgery was not a shock at all,” Lee continued. “It had nothing to do with the fact that I physically couldn’t because I was given no other choice to save the life of my child.”
The mom explains that having a C-section is decidedly “not pleasant” ― as it involves doctors pulling a baby out of a five-inch abdominal incision. She also noted that dealing with “shredded and mangled” core muscles in the aftermath is no picnic either.
“This was the most painful thing I have experienced in my life,” she wrote. “I now belong to a badass tribe of mamas with the scar to prove that I had a baby cut out of me and lived to tell the tale.”
Lee concluded her post with a message to people who suggest that women who gave birth via C-section had an “easy peasy” experience. She wrote:
“When that first nurse asked you to try getting out of bed and the ripping pain of a body cut apart and stitched back together seared through you, you realized the irony of anybody who talks about it being the ‘easy way out.’ So f**k you and f**k how you see what I did.
I am the strongest woman, that I know. Not only for myself, but for my beautiful son… and I would honestly go through this every single day just to make sure I am able to see his smiling face.”
Lee’s post has received over 14,000 likes and counting. In a follow-up comment, she wrote that she never imagined her rant would reach so many people and is grateful to learn that she’s not alone in feeling that way as a C-section mama.
“I’m so happy that people are spreading the awareness that not all mommies can deliver the ‘natural way,’” she added in another post.
Cheers to empowering moms, no matter how they became parents.